Problems may be the most energy-consuming phenomena that affect people's lives. A typical individual or organization spends almost every moment of their existence trying to cope with what are perceived as "problems." People talk about their problems, pay money for quick fixes or treatments for their problems, make choices according to their problems and avoid doing certain things, all under the influence of their problems.
My work and attention is heavily devoted to dealing and working with people's problems. As early on as elementary school, I helped friends overcome their difficulties in learning and in developing skills. This continued into my adult life when I decided to become a doctor and a psychiatrist. I was always interested in figuring out what stands behind a problem and how to "crack" its mechanism.
My main motivation is not based so much on compassion, as it is on a powerful passion to get to the bottom of a disharmony and to cure it. Just like a plumber or a surgeon, I get a kick out of finding what is stuck and removing it. When a client starts explaining his issue, I can literally hear the chainsaw of my enthusiastic mind starting itself up in order to tackle the problem. My approach combines logic, experience, intuition and imagination in order to figure out what is truly wrong and to find the quickest and most effective cure.
Given this state of mind and my natural tendency to take a rather artistic point of view on everything, I have spent over a decade studying, working, writing and experiencing what grew to become the "System for Changes," which is a body of knowledge, products and services that have arisen out of this process.
My share of involvement in the contemporary so-called "scientific" arena of psychiatry (I will later discuss the concept of "science") helped me to consolidate my ideas into a concrete, well-tested and efficient method that has helped many people to finally and irreversibly escape from what they perceived as "chronic problems." Some of the most exciting parts of my findings through this process have been the realizations about the role of the Right-Brain in the way a problem forms, stays, stagnates and eventually heals and is released. I have decided to share this helpful knowledge after observing its most striking effect on people who have asked for my services or used my products and books.
This book is meant to give you enough tools and knowledge to end problems. While this is no substitution for conditions that require professional help, it may certainly assist the vast majority of people who face too many troubling and stubborn issues, which they address as "problems." For this group of people, to which most of you probably belong, I would like to say right now:
"You are about to receive guidelines and information that will not only help you get over a problem, but more importantly will help you nip other budding issues to prevent them from growing. You are about to change your life by adopting the Right-Brain's way to end addiction to problems."
In order to fulfill this promise, you will have to read, explore the new concepts and put faith in what I am about to offer you. You may come into it with doubts, but try to keep an open mindset: continue reading, implement the ideas any way you can and give it all a chance to work. All the rest is just a matter of time.
I have helped to change many cases. Some have described these changes as a kind of grand miracle. However, it never struck me as such; I have always known that a natural, healthy, creative and healing force exits in all of us; it is just a matter of work and faith until it comes out and creates a significant recovery.
Your Left-Brain will likely demand to understand immediately what all this is about before we even begin. In contrast, your Right-Brain may say, "Well, it sounds interesting, let's give it a shot…" Your Right brain will be curious and stimulated but your Left-Brain will ask for proof and evidence before going anywhere new. I suggest you listen to your Right-Brain. This kind of knowledge is immersed, gradually, through reading and experiencing; if you cannot join a trip you can never imagine what it will feel like, even if you are shown all the pictures and videos about the place.
The first thing we must address as we commence this journey is the concept of an "addiction to problems." Awareness of the issue is the first step in the process towards change.
Recurrent and chronic problems are characterized by certain features that greatly resemble addictive states. Do you recognize yourself in this list?
- We tend to develop a sense of helplessness with these problems. We don't believe we have the ability to do much about them.
- We tend to repeat the same unpleasant experiences, even when avoiding them is possible.
- We tend to feel frustrated and think that we are stuck.
- We tend to think about our problems in an obsessive way, always discussing or complaining about them and maybe dragging other people and involving them in our problems as well.
- We tend to overlook practical pathways to end the problems. When we do try to use some good ideas, we fail to invest ourselves fully in them.
- We often say, "This is the last time it happens!" Only to later find out, regretfully, that we have done it again and again.
Do you need more? I have more!
Like in all addictions, we tend to treat ourselves harshly whenever we repeat our problematic behavior.
We may even pay a coach, therapist or doctor to "take our problem away" from us, but many times find ourselves eventually back at the starting point.
Lastly, and maybe most importantly, recurrent problems cause recurrent pain. Whenever we experience the problem, we also undergo pain.
In this sense, we can define addiction as: "One's inability to stop being involved with a painful or destructive experience."
The heroin user feels the high of the drug immediately after injecting it into the bloodstream. However, as soon as the pleasurable effect fades, it is followed by a tremendous pain, emotional or physical, so unbearable that the user craves another hit to numb the pain. The compulsive gambler will keep on gambling until he loses everything, and will then try to alleviate that painful sense of loss with another unlikely shot at a chance of winning, only digging deeper into debt and spinning back to the same suffering.
Your problem causes you pain, yet you gravitate to it. Did you know that this is just your unconsciousness' way of trying to show you something else that is bothering you on a deeper level? Your problem has escalated to the level of addiction, requiring your constant attention as a way to protect you from facing something else ― a deep-seated, root issue that is far less pleasant. Your condition of being addicted to a problem is really a well-structured system that has the specific role of shielding you from a yet bigger problem. This is why the addictive problem is so persistent, because the underlying issue remains firmly in place.
The good news is that you don't need to dig up the sources of your problems (for this you can go to psychoanalyst) to start a healing process. All you need to do is acknowledge that they exist in you and accept the following Right-Brain outlets I will present that can help you change this pattern into a far more productive and efficient way to create a new reality.
Do not forget to ask the questions. Preferably out-loud. Just ask them many times and let go. Are you able to do it as a kind of experiment?